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The Common Dating Mistakes Women make

DatingIf a person loves you in real, then he loves you the way you are. It means that if he asks you out for a date, then you must not show an artificial nature of yours. Trying to impress a man by being the woman that you’re not however, will certainly get you into trouble .Wanting to impress a man you just met or started dating is a good thing but it should be done in way so that he does not feel uncomfortable. You want to look your best, want to be interesting and captivating etc and there is nothing wrong with that, but it must not overshadow your inner personality.

At the beginning of the relationship always let him make the first move so you can scope out his level of comfort. As you get more involved, you may reach out for his hand first once in a while.

Don’t call him every day, and always have a good reason to call him. Click here to know more about dating Russian women. It is untrue that all men are afraid of commitment; most prefer to ease into the subject slowly and after plenty of time spent getting to know their partner.  The first weeks and months of dating should be devoted to getting acquainted and enjoying each other—without the pressure of “what lies ahead.” If dating is destined to grow into a long-term relationship, you will both know when the time is right to bring it up. No need to force the issue or try to foretell the future. It must be noted that a long lasting relationship has its base in trust and truth. A true relationship cannot be created on the basis of lies.

A proper date does NOT mean expensive date.  Dates are a starting point for possible future romance.  If he really likes you, he will be happy to plan a date and make sure you enjoy yourself.  Even if it is just a picnic in the park or going for some coffee, it shows that he thinks about what you would like to do and therefore is probably genuinely interested in you. Click here for dating Russian women.

Albert Einstein said, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” Mistakes are part of our lives through which we learn many things. There are few common mistakes which you must consider before going out for a date with your dream partner. For example if your favourite dish is a mixed meat plate and he is a die-hard vegetarian, then don’t claim that you are a vegetarian too in an effort to establish commonality. You can get into an unwanted situation and you may accidentally call your date Bob when his name is Bill. You may spill a glass of red wine on his nice, new suit or quarrel when the waiter brings the bill to your table. Let him pay the bill if he wants.  Therefore, instead of being artificial, just be the way you are. It will help you to talk to him very easily.

Friends With Benefits – when benefits does not pay dividend

When friends with benefits does not pay dividend

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The Cons
Unfortunately the cons are potentially quite extensive. Firstly, you have the most common problem of feelings either already present or developing. Now you might not think this is or will be a problem but you need to realise your FWB might not feel the same way. This is inevitably the most common reason why FWB relationships go wrong – one person already has or develops feelings that the other does not reciprocate. This inevitably creates problems and has broken up more friendships than we would be able to count.
Secondly as we alluded to earlier many FWB relationships happen as a result of a more serious relationship or dating. This type of FWB relationship creates the same problems as above but with the added problems of a relationship having already existed. In this case you cannot be assured that your “friend” isn’t really after a return to a relationship and you need to ask yourself seriously why you want a FWB relationship with your ex.
Finally you also have the serious problems of jealousy and attachment. Whilst at first FWB relationships might seem like a win-win situation you need to be wary of becoming jealous of your friend whilst they try and find a long term relationship that will in time replace your current “with benefits” relationship. Whilst FWB seems like an easy route, after an extensive period of time you may become more attached than you have previously realised – so be warned.
Our Advice
Honestly speaking the potential cons of FWB relationships far outweigh the pros in most situations. If you are considering, or are in, this kind of relationship you need to be cautious and talk to your friend to make sure that you are both in the same position and both feel the same way about your benefits. Remember you are potentially risking a valuable friendship and don’t take any aspect of “benefits” for granted.

Friends with benefits or FWB for short – A new dating phenomenon?

Can Friends with benefits be a healthy relationship? 

“Casual” sex has become increasingly common and many of us have, at some time or other, been involved in a “friends with benefits” (FWB) relationship. The most common FWB relationships happen between friends who have known each other for an extended period of time (most usually over 6 months) and between friends who used to date or were in a long term relationship. FWB relationships are supposedly very common with over 60% of adults claiming to have been involved in some form of FWB relationship. Given that FWB is common we thought it would be worth investigating by looking at the pros, cons and pitfalls of this potentially exciting yet often frightful arrangement.
Now some of you might have noticed our title – specifically the words “healthy relationship” – and this is one of the biggest concerns of FWB. FWB lies in one of the many dating grey areas because it’s not technically a relationship in the way normal dating relationships are. However, your relationships with your friends are still relationships and adding “benefits” makes the friendship much more complex. Technically there is no commitment in the sense of a long term commitment of love but there is a commitment of friendship. You may also have noticed that we’re using the word technically quite a lot and you’ll soon see why as we take a journey into the pros and cons of FWB.
The Pros
To point out the elephant in the room the biggest pro to FWB is of course the sex (In whatever form it might take). FWB relationships allow people to enjoy the pleasures of sex, without the strings of commitment, with someone they know and trust. Given the times and the myriad of risks, dangers and pitfalls of casual sex with strangers it is easy to see the added appeal of sleeping with a friend rather than someone you met on a Friday night in some grotty pub or club in your local city/town centre. Your friends are of course the people whose company you enjoy, the people who you unload all your woes onto and of course the people who do the same in return. This can and often does make the transition from friends to FWB a lot easier as a huge amount of comfort and trust is already available.
Well, its not all plain sailing for friends with benefits, find out what could go wrong with Friends with benefits in the second part of the article.